perfect flexibility

i have struggled most of my life with the thoughts that everything in my life must be perfect. if it can't be i'd rather not do it. of course life is not perfect, so nothing i do in life is perfect, but for some strange reason i would keep trying and making myself and maybe a few other miserable in the quest.
i think i'm getting better - "good enough" is, most days good enough. this winter has forced me to put away any ideas of being perfect and has given me a big lesson in flexibility. the snow in the pacific northweat pretty much brings everything to a halt. it's the ice factor - snow, then rain, then ice - so getting around can be pretty difficult. so, a number of activities have been cancelled. i have a REALLY hard time cancelling anything that i had planned - especially things that "we do every year"...
but, we didn't go to the lights at warm beach last friday and we all lived, my Christmas open house attendance was really low, but we had a GREAT time anyway, then church was cancelled on sunday morning (gasp) and it was a good day anyway. i went to church at mars hill bellevue with kimmie, jen and fake mom/grandma arlene and even though it wasn't a regular well-attended service and it was snowing hard we had a fun time and i enjoyed very much being there. i plan to go again when it's more "normal". we went out to dinner and had a good time together.
because my new church has a Christmas eve service we had to change our normal chitwood/butler Christmas dinner and gift exchange to last evening and - guess what? it was fun and nobody died over that change either - namely me!
tonight is still iffy about whether we'll gather at bellewood for the service or not, but you know, i think if we don't we'll have a great Christmas eve together at home!
dennis and dad are off to sedro woolley to get gene for an overnight and tomorrow promises many delights and surprises!
so, all that to say that i'm feeling like i'm getting better - going with the flow more - realizing that change doesn't have to be bad and that nothing is "perfect" anyway, so i can quit trying and enjoy my life and my family more.
so, i'll call this month "perfect flexibility".